The Importance of Emotional Control
Main Truth
Emotions are powerful because they can influence our thoughts, decisions, words, and actions. When negative emotions are allowed to operate without restraint, they can contribute to sinful attitudes and behavior. But through faith in God and His Word, believers can learn to bring their thoughts and emotions under spiritual control and experience the joy, peace, and strength God provides.
Key Scripture — 1 Peter 1:6–8:
“Wherein ye greatly rejoice, though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations... whom having not seen, ye love; in whom, though now ye see him not, yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory.
Discipleship Practical Questions & Answers
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Answer: Because what we continually allow ourselves to think and feel can eventually influence our behavior. Sinful actions can begin with desires and thoughts that are entertained instead of brought under control.
James 1:14–15: “But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin...”
Proverbs 4:23: “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.”
Key Truth: What we allow to remain in the heart can eventually show up in the life. Guard the heart before the wrong thing has an opportunity to grow.
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Answer: No. Emotional control does not mean denying our feelings. It means refusing to allow those feelings to become our master. Through the Holy Spirit, believers have been given self-control.
Galatians 5:22–23: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance...”
2 Corinthians 10:5: “...bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.”
Key Truth: You can experience an emotion without allowing that emotion to control your decisions or behavior.
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Answer: They can begin to influence our attitudes, words, relationships, and actions. Anger can develop into sinful behavior, and bitterness can take root and affect not only us but also others.
Ephesians 4:26–27: “Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place to the devil.”
Hebrews 12:15: “...lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled.”
Key Truth: Negative emotions become especially dangerous when we continually feed them. What begins internally can eventually produce external consequences.
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Answer: No. Peter acknowledged that believers could experience heaviness because of trials. Faith does not require us to pretend that pain does not exist. We can experience difficult emotions while still choosing to trust God.
1 Peter 1:6: “...though now for a season, if need be, ye are in heaviness through manifold temptations.”
Psalm 42:11: “Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me? hope thou in God...”
Key Truth: Faith does not deny what we feel; faith determines where we place our trust while we are feeling it.
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Answer: Their joy can come from what they believe rather than only from what they see. Peter taught that believers could experience trials and still rejoice because their faith remained fixed on Jesus Christ.
1 Peter 1:7–8: “That the trial of your faith... might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ... yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory.”
Key Truth: Circumstances speak to our emotions, but faith directs our attention toward God's truth.
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Answer: Not necessarily. Peter connected rejoicing with believing. Believers must continue to exercise faith and renew their minds instead of allowing circumstances to dominate their thinking.
1 Peter 1:8: “...yet believing, ye rejoice with joy unspeakable and full of glory.”
Romans 12:2: “And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind...”
Key Truth: What God has placed within us must influence the way we think. A renewed mind helps produce a transformed response.
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Answer: God's Word should shape our expectations. Instead of accepting every negative condition as the way life must always be, believers should discover what God says and allow His truth to shape what they believe.
Romans 15:13: “Now the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing...”
Key Truth: Don't allow circumstances to write your expectations. Let God's Word establish what you believe.
Believing → Joy → Peace
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Answer: Yes. We may not control every thought that initially enters our minds, but Scripture teaches us to direct our attention toward things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and worthy of praise.
Philippians 4:8: “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure... think on these things.”
Philippians 4:9: “...and the God of peace shall be with you.”
Key Truth: You may not control every thought that knocks at the door of your mind, but you can choose which thoughts you continue to entertain.
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Answer: Instead of surrendering to anxiety, believers are instructed to bring their concerns to God through prayer, supplication, and thanksgiving. God's peace can then guard their hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6–7: “Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Key Truth: When anxiety speaks, prayer gives us a way to turn our attention toward God and His peace.
Anxiety → Prayer → Thanksgiving → God's Peace
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Answer: The goal is not to become emotionless. The goal is to become spiritually mature enough that our emotions no longer determine our beliefs, decisions, and actions. Through faith and the power of the Holy Spirit, we can respond according to God's Word.
2 Timothy 1:7: “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.”
Key Truth: Emotions may tell us how we feel, but God's Word should determine how we respond.
SHORT SUMMARY
Emotions are powerful, but they were never intended to be our master. What we continually entertain in our thoughts and hearts can influence what our lives eventually produce. Therefore, believers should guard their hearts, renew their minds, and bring their thoughts into obedience to Christ.
Trials may produce genuine emotional heaviness, but they do not have to destroy our faith. According to 1 Peter 1:6–8, believers can experience trials and still rejoice because their joy is rooted in what they believe about Christ rather than only in what they see around them.
Faith changes our focus, renewed thinking changes our expectations, and the Holy Spirit empowers self-control.
Discipleship Discussion Questions
1. What negative thought or emotional pattern have I been allowing to influence my actions, and what does God's Word say about it?
2. When difficult circumstances arise, am I allowing what I see and feel to determine my response, or am I allowing faith in God's Word to guide me?